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5 Simple Practices for Femininity

Today I’m sharing five simple practices for femininity. Lately, I’ve wanted to tap into my feminine energy more. It started before Bishop Jakes’s sermon about raising women as men, but I also agreed with the sermon if you watch it in its entirety. But it’s just been a desire of mine. I realize I take care of so many people; I am a provider, and it’s to take on those male characteristics that come along with being such. It’s important that I remember to not only embrace my femininity but also practice it. 


I desire to be a sassy, jazzy woman, feminine and soft. I desire to be treated with gentleness, respect, and care, delicate. But heck, I think currently, I would be happy just to be treated at all. It is hard out here for a single woman. That is why I never classify myself as a feminist. I do believe men are needed for these things, and when they are not around and we have to take care of everything ourselves, it not only gets tiresome but makes hardens and roughens us as women as well. At least, I think this. 


Since I do not have much choice, as singlehood seems to be the best hood for me right now, I have no choice but to handle these things on my own. Therefore, I am making time to do the little things that remind me that I am a woman. I do these five simple things to improve my femininity. 


Get pedicures.-

Pedicures are said to help prevent infection, improve blood circulation, and reduce back pain. In addition, they make your feet look younger. Plus, it just helps with being touched because it has been a little while, you know, and I do not want some strange person touching me without knowing their purpose. I do not bother with manicures as much since I prefer my natural nails. I just liked to get my nails filed and shaped. Sometimes I get clear polish, but it usually does not last long. 


Play in makeup, and occasionally wear lipstick.-

I may never get to the MUA level, but I think I am improving my makeup skills. I have never been a makeup girl, but as I get older, I prefer having it on when out, aside from running everyday errands. 


Explore more R&B music.

If you follow me on social media, you know I love hip-hop/rap/trap/ hood, whatever you want to call it music. I really do, but I think listening to the rough, harsh lyrics sometimes causes us to think subconsciously and act a certain way. When taking that into account, most music nowadays says “eff love.” So it is easy to get caught up in the hype, but I know that I want a beautiful, harmonious love in reality, so I am taking in healthier relationship stories.  


Listen to books on womanhood.

Lately, I have been listening to books about womanhood and femininity. I recently read Joan Morgan’s When Chickenheads Come Home to Roost, bell hooks’s Ain’t a Woman, and I am currently listening to The Sacred Woman by Queen Afua. I’m going to go down this rabbit hole for a while, exploring more books on womanhood, focusing on femininity but also rage. 


Sashay a little harder when I walk and sit down with grace.-

It’s not something I normally do because I have always hated how I walked. I am knock-kneed and used to walk on my tiptoes when I was younger. So I felt some kind of way about my walk, but I recall leaving a Donell Jones’s show one day, and this guy said, “She got a mean walk,” but he meant it in good way. I carry that thought whenever I feel insecure about walking into places because I am very self conscious. As far as sitting down, I have a tendency to plop down, which is not how a lady sits. So I am working on that too. 

I do these things in no particular order, but I am mindful to practice them repeatedly throughout the week. Notice I did not say “day” because sometimes it may not fit into my day. For example, I sashay in public, but I am not out in public every day since I work from home.

I strongly believe that you must work at something over time when you want something great. So in order to be, as our former TAT guest, Suzzen Stroman says, a woman with grace, dignity, and respect, I must practice these things and tap into my feminine energy. 

Stay tuned for more Fancy’s Thoughts blogs, as I will be sharing more techniques and products.

Francheska Felder
Francheska Felder
Francheska “Fancy” Felder is an award-winning editor, publisher, publicist, and quiet Southern media mogul. In 2010, she launched SwagHer Magazine, an empowerment and lifestyle publication for the Black woman who likes to keep it real, which also doubles as a PR boutique. SwagHer Magazine uses positive media and storytelling to create new narratives and mindsets around Black women, their communities, and the businesses and organizations they lead, while the boutique strategically executes press and brand campaigns. The proud SU alum is also the publicist for Power Influence Radio and hostess of the CEO Chatter LIVE Podcast. Because she battles with bipolar disorder, Fancy is a proud mental health advocate.

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