“For you, I promise I’ll try” are six words that resonate with my mindset and spirit for 2024, if not for life. I felt a sensation when I first heard them on Nicki Minaj’s “Let Me Calm Down,” which features J. Cole. Though everything about that song spoke to me, reminding me of my own emotional state, those words, in particular, are my favorites. While the song talks about intimate relationships and their complexities, I heard a song about all the relationships in my life.
At almost 40, I can agree with the old adage: “If you want to hear God laugh, tell him about your plans.” This feels like the repeated cycle of my life. To me, when you walk by faith, you must have some plan or at least an idea of what you will do, but it seems like these ideas or plans always fall through for me.
With that being said, I do not always feel comfortable saying what I am going to do. I know all too well that it may not happen. However, what I do know for a fact is that I promise to try.
For my three kids; for my parents; for my siblings, nieces, and nephews; for my SwagHer team and community; for my students and colleagues; for the people that are rooting for me that I do not even know—for you, I promise I will try.
Because in this world of no guarantees, that is all we can do sometimes. Sometimes, it’s just not within God’s plans for us to advance yet. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but the sooner you do, the more a peace of mind you will have.
I once heard someone say, “You can’t cash a “try” check,” and while I agree to the fullest, I also know that life is more complicated than that. You might not cash that type of check, but you can sleep more peacefully knowing that you did everything in your power, though you may have fallen short.
We live in a time where some people will not try anything, so you, friends, are at least a step ahead. Show yourself some love today.
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