If you’re a good man who’s looking for a life partner, a spouse, a forever relationship, you must be smarter in your selection of women. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m all about uplifting my sisters, but the truth is, women have as many toxic traits and behaviors as men. We aren’t always the catch and we definitely weren’t the victims in all of our broken relationships—it’s about time we admit that.
My advice to men is to start trusting your instincts. Your intuition isn’t as strong as us women, but your gut will still alert you. Pay attention and don’t push the warnings to the side because she’s beautiful, good in bed, or cater to you. One thing for certain, two things for sure; women aren’t the only ones that have said to themselves, ‘If I knew then what I know now, I wouldn’t have given them the time of day.’
With that being said, here are five types of women that men should avoid like the plague.
Miss “God forgives, I don’t”
Listen, your relationship isn’t real if you don’t have a disagreement or two, that’s normal. What’s not normal is if every one of those disagreements ends with her giving you the silent treatment, ignoring you, or just downright attitude. What’s even worse—she carries that ridiculous attitude over until the next day, and the next, making you shut down emotionally because apparently, expressing yourself is the devil’s work. People make mistakes—small ones, enormous ones, ones that affect nothing, and ones that affect everything. Not all mistakes require you to be crucified or stoned. Nobody is perfect, period. Even with knowing that to be true, she still expects you to keep her happy 24/7, Bro, just hand her a Bible and run. Let God be her man because he’s the only one that’s flawless.
Miss “You’re my everything”
Let’s keep it real; men LOVE to feel needed by their woman. No matter if it’s to remove a stubborn lid off a jar, or to make sure all the doors and windows are locked before bed, being needed makes a man feel, well… like he’s valued. Some women take ‘needing’ their man a bit too far. When she starts to always ‘need’ you around, as if she can’t function day to day without you, it’s time to cut ties. Having meltdowns when you make plans that don’t involve her or is always making plans for the two of you without your consent is disrespectful and controlling. If she texts and calls excessively when you’re at work, hanging out with your boys, or even out running errands, get out of dodge! Abort! Abort! Abort! This behavior is unhealthy, childish, and just downright creepy. Your relationship screams Snapped, First 48, and Lifetime Movie Studios. This situation could lead to violence against you and/or her, and believe me; you do not want to be involved with anything life-altering like that. You’re both adults, and if she can’t or refuse to understand how important it is for a couple to maintain their individuality, as well as have healthy social lives, then you need to move on sir, and I mean quickly.
Miss “I’m going to mold you into the man that I want you to be”
*Cues up Mary J. Blige song Take me as I am* Um, excuse me, not one woman on this earth can purposefully change a man, well, unless she’s a therapist. Other than that, brother man has to want different and better for himself. She will not see growth until you’re ready; and who’s to say that you’re going to grow in her direction? Her ‘different’ and ‘better’ for you may be the complete opposite of what you want for yourself. Nagging, scolding, micromanaging, and trying to force you to achieve goals that she’s created for you is a recipe for disaster. You’re going to rebel like a teenager and drive the both of you nuts. Who in the hell wants a woman who thinks of you as a task or a project like it’s operation build-a-man?
Miss “Give me everything I don’t give myself”
Beware of this gold-digging, keeping up with the Joneses, ‘I don’t love myself so I need for you to love me’ woman right here. She wants you to keep her hair and nails done every two weeks when she wasn’t doing that before you came into the picture. She wants you to fly her to places she can’t afford, or too cheap to pay for, or worse, too lazy to grind and save up for. She wants you to pay every bill that she has when she doesn’t even pay every bill that she has. This woman wants to live a certain lifestyle from your income. You have to tell her she’s beautiful, sexy, not fat, smart, etc., etc. all day long, because her self-esteem is taking a stroll somewhere in hell. Being with a woman that wants you to solely provide her with things that she doesn’t have, give, or are working toward getting herself, will drain your energy and your bank account. Unless you like being a sweet lick who never gets tired of pacifying and praising her every five seconds, this relationship will burn out fast.
Miss “Men are scum, but I don’t want to be alone”
This is who I used to be. I had to ask myself one important question: If men are so bad, why in the world do I keep dating them? There are all these memes, signs, organizations, movements, t-shirts, etc. dedicated to women knowing their worth, well, men deserve to know theirs too. It took me a long time to understand that it doesn’t matter how small or how big of a role you play in a breakup, you STILL play a role; yep, it takes two tango baby.
Why would a man want to be with a woman that constantly male bashes and craps on their entire existence? How is that attractive? How is that cute? Fellas, if your girl never has anything positive to say about the male species, you need to move on. How many times are you going to allow her to tell you in so many ways that she’s just tolerating you? How many times does she have to show you that, all she needs is help with her children, bills, and to be a substitute for her vibrator? Bro, You aren’t her man, you’re A MAN that’s providing her with her wants and needs, that’s it. Other than money, sex, and occasional company, you’re worthless to her. Is this the type of woman you want to entertain?
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