“Dare to love yourself
as if you were a rainbow
with gold at both ends†–Aberjhani
I had gotten out of the shower, was half way through my routine, then I realized… I had not looked at myself. Not once! I never brought my eyes up to meet the reflection of the person that should matter the most. That is when it hit me…Â I could not recall the last time I looked at myself. I could not remember when I last told myself I love you!
Self-love is so imperative. We wear many hats and often times than not we forget to take care of us. I started forcing myself to look at me. What a strange thing to have to force, but here I was staring long and hard at who I was. My physical appearance had changed. My smile was not nearly as bright and wide, and I felt the weight of my world on me. I looked and saw everything wrong with me. That is when it hit me. I could only see the wrong, because I did not love me properly. Something had to give. I had to change this way of thinking. Â
 I started to ask myself questions about me. What makes me happy? What are my priorities? What am I allowing to drain my energy? What do I love about me? I started dating myself. I actually got dressed up, smelled good, and did the whole routine as if someone were picking me up. I made time for me, and stopped feeling guilty for it. I remembered how music made me feel. I took time to learn myself again. My interest had changed. When did I start liking opera so much? I put myself at the top of the list. My attitude started to shift.
There were things I would put up with before this journey that I now look at and laugh. I understood self-esteem and self-confidence. I make sure when I pass a mirror- or most things with a reflection, I smile at myself and give a little wink. I started to remember and focus on all the things that made me unique and happy. Doing simple things like taking full-length selfies and smiling when I caught myself sitting with resting mean face, really started to make me feel good about me again. I never even noticed how little I paid attention to myself until I started loving me again. The game changed.
 When you start to love yourself, everything starts falling into place. The second-guessing minimizes. You become surer of yourself. You start to dream again and believe that you can accomplish those dreams! When you believe in yourself and love you, things start changing. You take better care of yourself. You make better decisions, your self worth and self-value increase. There is no way to live your life to the fullest without first loving the skin you are in. You got this! It’s ok to compliment, love, and stroke your own ego. Love yourself! No one can love you like you can.
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About Reine
I’m Reine. Imperfect single mother of 2 great children. I love to smile, live life, spread joy and laughter. Empowering women is a passion of mine. If I can share my experiences so women know they aren’t alone then I’ve done my job. Let’s win queens! There’s room for is all to shine.
