Wednesday Wonder Woman: Nicole R. Goode

Nicole R. Goode, M.A., affectionately known as “Nikki G,” is the Owner and Founder of Nicole R. Goode, M.A.’s School of Sexology, Nikki G’s Spot, and UnCovering You with Nikki G (PODCAST), all of which are divisions of N.R. Goode Enterprises, LLC. Nicole is a professionally trained and academically credentialed Sociologist, Sexologist, and Master Teacher. She is also the published book author of Woman Up: This Is Not About Him…It’s About You! Goode is a fervent advocate for women’s empowerment and rights; understanding men, masculinity, power, and gender dynamics; bridging and healing relationships; building family and community; establishing and enhancing holistic connections (mind-body-heart-spirit-soul), intimate cultivation of Self, and the sociology and spirituality of human existence and experiences.  

Nicole is an expert on Black Sexuality in America; Women, Sexuality, Sexual Expression, Eroticism, Sensuality, and The Divine Feminine; The Spirituality of Sex/Sex Energy/Sacred Sex as well as Masculine and Feminine Principles. Specifically, Goode offers a unique combination of a sociological and psychological approach with a historical, scientific, cultural, and spiritual understanding. Nicole R. Goode, M.A. graduated Distinguished/Summa Cum Laude from DePaul University (Chicago, Illinois), earning a Master of Arts in Sociology specializing in Sexuality, Gender, Men/Masculinity and Power, Group Dynamics, Race and Ethnicity, Social Inequality and Stratification.

Goode is a member of the esteemed Alpha Kappa Delta International Sociology Honor Society, which promotes excellence in studying social problems, sociology, and intellectual activities that lead to an improvement in the human condition. Nicole is life dedicated and soul committed to humanity’s elevation and empowerment by providing knowledge, wisdom, understanding, and guidance. Everything Goode offers in services is a safe space, a truth space, and a learning space.

 

Christina: What is your SwagHer? What makes Nicole, Nicole?

Nicole: I AM that I AM, and within all I AM are many paradoxes. I embrace that and boldly stand in it. When I say this, I mean that I could list all of my life victories and challenges I have overcome thus far, my gifts, talents, attributes, accomplishments, academic degrees, loves, passions, and pleasures. It still would not adequately explain the entirety of me. It would simply be touching a beautiful surface. The amazement is in the vastness and depth of me in which there is no end. I am the dichotomy in one body. A “social butterfly” that requires space and solitude. Exuberant and reserved. Highly intelligent and studious, yet “the life of the party” and quite entertaining. Intuitive, but analytical and logical. Fun and serious. Adventurous, yet very methodical and calculating. I love to dance (a lot) and listen to music (many genres), but I absolutely enjoy stillness and complete silence. A deep thinker and a doer. A humanitarian at heart that is independent in every sphere of my being. Unconventional and iconoclastic, yet I honor ancient traditions and spiritual systems. I am kind and most fierce, full of joy and peace, but a blazing warrior. I am gentle yet firm, commanding and flowing, connected, yet detached. Whole and many parts. Close, but free. Mysterious and welcoming. Open, yet safeguarded. Wild and cultivated. Light and darkness. Creator and creation. ALL IN COMPLETE BALANCE.

Can you imagine what it is like being me? I AM a whole universe within myself and my own muse. It really is awesome being me because I am in total agreement, love, and like with myself. I am one of my greatest explorations. I am not wrestling with aspects of who I AM because they present as opposites. That’s been key for me. EMBRACING MY DYNAMICS…no holds barred. I am a walking enigma [to many], but this is only because my very existence is AHEAD and BEYOND limitations pertaining to thinking and being in this world. I AM the paradigm shift, a new zeitgeist, and consciousness. I mind boggle, and this is the way it was intended to be. I AM that I AM—Nikki G with all of my intricacies. I am a juggernaut, an empowering guide, and a liberating soul.

Christina: Why become a sexologist? What inspired you to pursue a career in that field?

Nicole: I have a Master of Arts in Sociology from DePaul University (Chicago, IL) specializing in Sexuality, Gender, Men/Masculinity and Power, Group Dynamics, Race and Ethnicity, Social Inequality, and Stratification. I am a Sociologist-Sexologist. I make it a point to emphasize sociology not merely because that is the advanced degree I earned but it is the main perspective from which I teach. Sexologists vary in pedagogical emphasis. My sociological treatment of sexology, along with psychological, scientific, spiritual, historical, and cultural context, allows for a thorough and holistic approach to the study of human sexuality, specifically Black Sexuality in America. Just as unique as I AM in my specializations and approach, so is African descendants’ experience in the Americas. I chose this (career) path because of my love and commitment to the education, total empowerment, and uplift of African descendants (BLACK people) and women.  

Mastery in sexuality leads to the whole mastery of self. Mastery of self makes way for liberation and freedom. A liberated (knowledgeable and wise) people are capable of RULING THYSELF ENTIRELY in every aspect of their existence…complete sovereignty. So, when I say “I chose this path,” in reality, I am saying that I yielded my life to my SOUL PURPOSE, and I WILL see it to the end. 

Christina: Tell us a little about your podcast, UnCovering You with Nikki G.

Nicole: My podcast is the taboo provocateur. I discuss the gray area that people avoid talking about [at least publicly], but many people dwell in; they just don’t want anyone else to know about it. However, what I do on my podcast is provide a non-judgmental space for those who want to learn more and understand more. I also make it a point to ensure my guests and audience members know who they are, what they do or may feel is not necessarily abnormal, although it may not be accepted as a social norm. Essentially, UnCovering You with Nikki G (PODCAST) relishes the “gray area.” 

Christina: For the people out there who don’t know or understand what a sexologist is or what they do, can you explain?

Nicole: Again…I am a Sociologist-Sexologist. I want to be very clear about that. A sociologist teaches the science of society, societal systems, structures and organizations, social institutions and relationships, and collective and individual human behaviors. A sexologist teaches the science of human sexuality, including sexual interests, behaviors, functions, and relationships. Sexology tends to utilize several other academic fields in the analysis, synthesis, and presentation of information. I am a teacher of both Sociology and Sexology, and my teachings are scientifically-based.  

Christina: What type of services do you offer to your clients through Nicole R. Goode, M.A.’s School of Sexology, and Nikki G’s Spot?

Nicole: Nikki G’s Spot is your “one-stop-shop” for sex education, empowerment, and wellness, providing the information and tools necessary to enhance your relationships and sexual experiences. ​

Nikki G’s Spot Offers:

Sexology Tutorials and Workshops

Consultations

Nicole R. Goode, M.A.’s School of Sexology, provides university-level instruction without the exorbitant college tuition prices. Students can expect to learn about human sexuality in conjunction with spirituality from a sociological perspective.

Nicole R. Goode, M.A.’s School of Sexology Offers:

Sexology Courses and Seminars

Consultations and Coaching 

*View Our Location: https://nikkigspot.com/consultation-services–our-location.html

Christina: What does your ideal day look like? 

Nicole:  My ideal day looks like the reality of my days…productive, peaceful, and full of laughs. 

Christina: Do people ever comment that what you do is weird or taboo? How do you respond to people like that?

Nicole: People do not comment to me that what I do is weird or taboo, but I have been referred to as “controversial” a few times…usually by women. I used to reply, “Controversial to who and in regards to what?” None of those individuals ever had a response. I digress. What I do know is this:

Many people project themselves unto others at the level of their thinking and being, which for some is quite limited, sometimes fragmented, broken, and insecure. I do not concern myself with other people’s misunderstandings that they hold so firmly to regardless of facts, evidence, and truth. I refuse to contend with other individuals’ adamant cognitive dissonance. We all must reconcile ourselves unto ourselves and let the best us win.

Christina: Define empowerment in your own words. 

Nicole: FREE TO FULLY BE and LIVE THAT FULLNESS BOLDLY and UNAPOLOGETICALLY. 

Christina: Do you have any upcoming events or projects you would like our readers to know about?

Nicole: I am conducting a Virtual Q&A Session on “How to Use Yoni Eggs” on January 21, 2021 (Thursday) at 8:00 pm EST via Nicole R. Goode, M.A.’s School of Sexology FACEBOOK LIVE. My online tutorials and quick sessions are always fun, educational, entertaining, and interactive. View Previous Nikki G LIVE Sexology Tutorials here: https://nikkigspot.com/upcoming-events-join-us.html

UnCovering You with Nikki G (PODCAST) is starting Season Two this February 2021. Definitely tune-in! The second season’s first show is slated to be about “High Value” Men & Women. 

Listen to Season One Now: https://nikkigspot.com/uncovering-you-with-nikki-g-podcast.html

Nicole R. Goode, M.A.’s School of Sexology, has partial tuition scholarships available. Please visit our website to apply. This is a highly selective and limited opportunity. NOTE: Students rave about the Mojo 101 course. The “glow up,” or as I call it ‘The GODDESS UP’ is real! Also…make sure you all “follow/like” the Nikki G’s Spot and Nicole R. Goode, M.A’s School of Sexology FACEBOOK business pages for current updates and online tutorials. To receive exclusive event invites and information, sign-up for our newsletter at: www.NikkiGSpot.com

Christina: Is there anything else you would like to share?

Nicole: Most definitely check out my CONSULTATION SERVICES. Consultation sessions with me are similar to counseling services. Specifically, my consultations are action/resolution-oriented, the person(client)-centered and focused on personal growth, ‘self-uncovering,’ self-agency, and self-efficacy. I serve more as a facilitator, teacher, and guide. Now, you may be thinking that there has to be a problem or a pressing issue in order for an individual or couple to seek consultations. Not necessarily and definitely not always. That is the thing about consultation services with me…just as life is a journey, so is our need throughout various stages of our lives to seek guidance, clarity, confirmation, more knowledge, in-depth analysis, a different perspective, a call-to-action, a revelation, a realization, an affirmation, wisdom, understanding, and support. If you want answers to life’s perplexities and vicissitudes, I’ve got them! My clients affectionately nicknamed me “The Oracle.”

 

Connect with Nicole R. Goode, M.A. below:

Website: https://linktr.ee/NicoleRGoodeMA

Website: www.NikkiGSpot.com

Instagram: @nikki_gspot

Facebook: @NikkiGSpot /  @TheGoodeLearningExperience  (School of Sexology) / @UnCoveringYouWithNikkiG  (PODCAST)

Clubhouse: @NicoleRGoodeMA